The country of molesters

Ok, if you ask me what really was the last straw that made me write, the answer is …

Last few weeks has been horrible for everybody – in India, across world, across my street, my friends, my neighbours, my family and me. Thanks to God’s Grace, we have been very well managed by God’s mercy.

Among the things that graced this seemingly interminable occasion has been the event of molesters. Just in case if you have forgotten, a girl was molested in Guwahati and group of girls in Mangalore. I must admit it rankled me a lot. The scenes that were replayed time and again on tellys were very disturbing. And thankfully, the media has sensibility to censor the faces of unfortunate victims.

I must say, these two events finally took me out of the slumber to start doing something, even if it is just ranting interminably online.

There are several perspectives from which you can see these two events. One is from “girls provoked men” to “men-dominated society” to “parties should be banned” to “parents should mind their daughters” etc. I think all of them are bullshit, thrice over bullshit. We will come to those rants some other time.

Something that we find very perplexing was the reactions. The reaction was absolutely totally missing! We would like to challenge you:  Can anyone of you tell us what was the reaction to several girls molested, groped, manhandled and sexually-harassed on-camera and telecasted in full light of the evidence against the culprits? Can somebody tell us what has anybody, or anything – govt or any governmental body, done to – stop and avoid the repeat of such an event – on-camera or off?

As far as we can see, scan and learn, there has been Nothing except some blasted lip-service. Ask those women who rose up in support to those poor girls what has been achieved? We can’t see a thing!!

And what stays with me like a prickly thorn is the Mangalore reporters statement that goes something like this: “These events happen every day, except that there are no cameras.”

And also, it is possibly because of this there is no reaction – it’s an everyday event! A group of people molesting girls, tearing their clothes off, video-taping them, assaulting them and sexually harassing them – is a everyday event!

And you ask us what the fu*k is wrong with this country!?

The funniest thing is, sarcastically speaking, its all fine, it always is, when it is happening to others. Or some blurred-face scared little girl on TV. The reality strikes home, when it happens close by – to you, to your sister, your daughter, to one in your family or to your grandmother! I am somehow very convinced, that too will not elicit any reactions. Pussst!

And the most shocking thing is simply this: it is the girls themselves who ignore it!

Forget the bast**rd government, they will never do anything. But at least girls can start doing something to be – better prepared. Is it too much to ask? In the country where groping somebody else’s somebody is a national pastime, can’t girls think out a few tricks as to what to do in such events? Is it too much to ask these women’s organizations? Or the leading torchbearers of woman-kind Cosmo, Vogue etc to have a “5 things to do when you are ….”?

I am not sure how the dads and moms are sleeping. They must be sleeping hard. We cannot reform these molesters nor the society which breeds them nor the society which conveniently turns a blind eye to these criminals – what we can do is to atleast give our girls enough confidence to react with a sense of courage and bravery if and when such an unfortunate event strikes. Isn’t it everybody’s duty to enable such a thing to happen?